Vicki gave Bridget some more advice about dealing with unwanted behavior. She added that if a child finds it difficult to explain the situation they are in, it is the parent’s position to help them reach salvation. Adults alone have difficulties expressing themselves so could you imagine what children go through?
As a parent, you have to slip into your investigator’s uniform and dig in deep until you find what you are looking for. You dig in until you reach your child and his/her needs.
Who Was in the Wrong?
After reading Vicki's response to her post, Bridget started to ask herself if Marie's behavior was supposedly acceptable and if Bridget herself was in the wrong. Vicki's reply was something Bridget adopted for the rest of her life.
She gave such a simple yet wise answer that left Bridget amazed at how simple bringing up children can sometimes be.
The Spoken and Unspoken Words
Vicki wrote that teaching children how to behave and not be rude is crucial. However, it is equally important to learn for yourself how to listen. She emphasized the listening part and carried on by adding that listening means more than hearing the words that come out of their mouth.
Listening is understanding their body language, it's listening to the spoken words but more to the unspoken words. It's also about teaching them new ways to express their frustration and disappointment.
Theory of Relativity
Was Bridget really the one misbehaving? Should Marie be cleaned from all charges? Bridget still asked herself how a little girl came to the conclusion that she was anyone's boss.
This must have been suggested somehow as there is no other explanation for a six-year-old to play the master's role. Marie was too young to understand the relativity between cost, employer, and employee.
Things to Do Before Hiring a New Nanny
The incident for sure opened Bridget's eyes. After reading through the responses she got to her post, she googled "Things to do before hiring a new nanny" and realized there were crucial things she had to do before presenting her children with the new reality.
The first step she had to take made her feel really bad. How didn't she know of this before? Sometimes the most simple things in life just slip under your nose.