Give the future nanny a taste of what is expected and what the day is going to be like. Kids don’t like surprises and nannies don’t like surprises either. Plan the day as if it was another normal day but let the nanny take part in what would be her responsibility.
This can be preparing dinner, bathing the kids, or reading a bedtime story. Whatever comes to mind, as long as it’s part of your daily routine.
Part of the Family
Make the new nanny part of the family before they even start the job. Invite them for dinner. Meet them in the park. Do any activity you like together with the potential new nanny. This will make it easier for any child to embrace a new person into their lives.
The day the new nanny or babysitter arrives will be less tense for the parent and most importantly, the child.
Get Those Board Games Out
If you chose to invite the new nanny to dinner make a date out of it and don't end it once the table is cleared. Get out your favorite games and make it time for Pictionary, Charades, or any other enjoyable activity your children have.
Not only will this be the first step in the nanny-child relationship, but this will also give you a glimpse of how the nanny interacts with and relates to your child.
These Are a Few of My Favorite Things
Kids like it when things are left the same. They like routine, familiar places keep them calm, and familiar belongings ever calmer. Now you understand why so many kids carry around their blanket until they are forced to send it on its way? When you go out to the park take a favorite toy car. Planning an outing to the playground? Bring along a favorite book.
This will assure the child that things are not as different as they first anticipated. That there might be a new person in their lives but overall everything has remained the same.
The Grand Tour
The arrival of a new nanny can lead to insecurity when it comes to kids. One way of helping them is by making them feel important and in charge. When the new nanny or babysitter comes for the first visit or first playdate, let your child introduce the nanny to the rooms in the house. Let them show her where you keep the snacks in the kitchen and where the towels are in the bathroom.
That being said, it's important not to overdo it and define a very clear line as to where the responsibilities end for the child. The last thing you want is a little monster boss, bossing the new nanny around as Marie did.